I'm amazed at the limitless number of ways experts have found to "fix" broken relationships. Some of them are good and some are not so good. Reading through a number of them, I came to the conclusion that there had to be a better way. One could spend hours upon wasted hours never getting to a satisfactory answer. One method might encourage you to balance your chakra, while another may tell you to change your diet.

After seeing how complicated many of these so called experts were making our relationships, I decided to come up with one simple, easy to use and easy to remember relationship philosophy: Our lives can be broken down into time, specifically the time we spend with at:

1. Home
2. Work
3. Play

That's all it takes. Find the balance between these and the world will be your oyster. I'd like to complicate your life love more but that would be cruel and unusual punishment!

Figure out how much time you're spending at home, work and play and then decide to change your life.

Is work dragging you down? Then ask your boss for a change or change your boss. When you and your husband are alone, do you only bring up work and the kids? Then when you're at home with your husband decide to be fully there for him. When you and you're husband go out to have fun do you take calls from work and your kids? Then decide to leave the cell phone somewhere else so you can't answer it.

It comes down to whether you're willing to focus on the task at hand or will you be forever distracted into a forever unfulfilling life?

And it doesn't have to be just your marriage. Our relationships color all of these areas. If we have a colleague at work is causing us all kinds of grief over not getting promoted, then that could very well color the rest of our day. If we don't spend enough time with our spouse at home and at play then that will also eventually come back to bite us and effect our work and our play. If we don't take the time to play with our spouse, our kids and our friends then those relationships will no doubt suffer and put stress on our work and our home time. All three need to have balance.

Am I saying that we need spend equal time at all three, say eight hours each? No, I'm not! Where would you find the time to sleep? What I'm saying is that you have to find the balance that's right for you. You have to find the fun activities, job, and home life that bring you true joy and happiness. Each of us will be different.

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Alan Bentley, God's gift to female/male communication, helps single women across the country unravel mysteries of the male mind helping improve their relationships with men they love. To discover how you can crack the guy code, go to http://www.cracktheguycode.com or email alan@cracktheguycode.com